Watermelon... is the answer!

It’s summer, and beach time is beautiful in San Diego! Our beaches are the absolute best. It’s time to get out, get wet with a boogie board, surfboard, kayak, or try SUP (stand up paddling) for a great new experience on the water. I started last summer at the lagoon in Carlsbad, about 10 minutes from our home, and have since SUP’d on Mission Bay and the ocean as well. Kayaking on the open ocean is awesome. This weekend I'm going to paddle out at La Jolla Shores to observe the Leopard Sharks, as they are said to be non-aggressive.

Ice cold watermelon during or following a warm day at the beach is always refreshing. However, thanks to Wally Amos, the founder of Uncle Wally’s Muffin Company (you probably know of him for his famous cookies) who has written his “Watermelon Credo”. It has been a guide that has helped others, and the truths contained herein, have benefited many which I have enjoyed the privilege of coaching during our couples relationship meetings.

It is my pleasure to share this palatable and inspirational wisdom;

W~Whatever you believe creates your reality. Believe that life is a positive experience and it will be. You are a spiritual being, having a human experience!

A~Attitude is the magic word. Your greatest asset is your attitude. We have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace. Be positive regardless!

T~Together everyone achieves more. There are no limits to what we can accomplish together. I am more than I am but less than we are.

E~Enthusiasm is the wellspring of life. There is no limit to what can be accomplished with passion coupled with enthusiasm.

R~Respect others as well as yourself. Self-respect will manifest itself in respect for others which literally reshapes the world.

M~Make commitments, not excuses. There is overwhelming power in the words; “yes, I will.”

E~Everyday can be lived as a day of empowerment. Laughter is the lubricant that keeps life moving.

L~Love is the answer. Whatever the question. Love is the answer. It is the greatest force in the universe! (1John 4:16; “God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God and God in Him.”

O~One day at a time. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. All of life happens in increments of one.

N~Never give up or become a victim. You're guaranteed to lose if you give up. Winston Churchill was right, never, never, never give up! It works if you work it!

Watermelon is fun and good for you! Inspirational and a wonderful reminder for us to always live life from our highest self. Do not allow yourself to be overwhelmed by events. Allow Watermelon to remind you that you are larger than events. You do have the power to create and change events by what you believe!

Wedding at Orfila Winery in Escondido, CA

Thanks to Britany & Kevin for the photo! Their wedding was at the Orfila Winery in Escondido, CA.

"We just wanted again to thank you for being part of our special day with us."

Communication in Marriage

Communication is the lifeline of marriage. From the beginning to the end, it determines the potential of every area of a relationship. Whether it is money, children, romance, sex or household chores, being able to openly and successfully talk things over is crucial to marital harmony.

Of course, just as in other areas, men and women are very different when it comes to communication. One of the essential differences that must be understood is the encryption that is necessary when speaking to the opposite sex. Let me explain...

Men and women hear through their deepest needs and inner natures. For example, a woman's deepest need is security. She needs to know that her husband is sensitive to her and that he is sacrificially committed to her on every level. When she is secure, her heart is free to live and love.

A man's deepest need is honor. He needs to know that his wife esteems and respects him. Everything his spouse does or says passes through the "honor filter" and dramatically affects his outlook on life and attitudes concerning their relationship.

When we understand our deepest needs and those of our spouse we must also realize that our communication must match our spouse's nature in order to be successful. Another way to say it is this: When we are communicating in a manner that violates our spouse's inner nature and deepest needs, it will create hurt, frustration and conflict.

When a man communicates with a woman, regardless of what is being said on any given subject, every word must be spoken with "security encryption." In attitude, tone, body language and every other way successful communication to women always conveys this message: "I love you and am totally committed to our relationship. I will sacrifice to meet your needs. You are on my heart and are my first priority." Unsuccessful communication is sent without this encryption and that is why it fails.

When a woman communicates with a man she must also equip every word she says with "honor encryption." Everything she says to him must convey this message: "I respect and honor you. You are a good man and I believe in you. I am your greatest supporter and biggest fan. I am proud of you and will stand by your side forever." Anything spoken without this encryption will violate his deepest need and inner nature and therefore fail to influence him as desired.

We must understand that when we are communicating with someone of the opposite sex they are made much different from us. Every word we say is encoded with an attitude that our spouse can intuitively pick up on. If you have been struggling in the area of communication, maybe you are having encryption problems.

Blessings

Testimonial

Thanks Anna for the wonderful review!

"Reverend Powers has a great sense of humor and will do anything you ask as an officiant, including wearing a costume. We asked him to wear a monk's robe to go with our Renaissance wedding, and not only agreed, he already HAD one! He worked the ceremony I had written with excellence. I agree that he's San Diego's favorite wedding officiant."

Maritime Museum in San Diego

Have you ever thought about getting married on the water? Weddings with the San Diego Maritime Museum are beautiful ceremonies you'll cherish forever.

I have enjoyed so many wonderful weddings as the Resident Chaplain for the San Diego Maritime Museum, and welcome you to check out the website for more details on creating a memorable day aboard one of these historic vessels!

From their website:

The lovely 1898 Berkeley ferryboat, gracing San Diego Bay with her turn-of-the-century charm and ambiance is available for weddings and receptions. She has two open-air decks, offering your choice of downtown skyline or sunset views of the harbor. Her Ladies' deck and dance floor are also crowned with Victorian styled stained glass windows, softly backlit after dark. The ferryboat is an excellent site for both weddings and receptions, offering a full array of services from your ceremony to your bon voyage.

Our own majestic Star of India is without question the most unique wedding location in Southern California, if not the world. She is the oldest active sailing ship in the world. Built in 1863, she has circled the globe 21 times with her soaring masts and spars that support her white billowing sails. Your wedding ceremony will be celebrated in timeless elegance and unparalleled beauty.

Wedding Season: What Does It Mean?

“Wedding season” is upon us! This means couples worldwide will spend thousands of dollars on flowers, dresses, tuxes, cakes and rings as well as hundreds of hours insuring their ceremony extravaganza is absolutely perfect!

What does it take to have a great wedding? The average wedding according to recent research in the United States costs on average $27,000, which includes a wedding ceremony and reception site, wedding planner, band or D.J., photographer, videographer, cake, dress, favors and of course engagement rings just to name a few of the details.

This momentous occasion requires time, planning, and careful consideration to details.
But what does it take to have a great marriage?

Marriage Enchantment – defined as “United Blessedness” is your gateway to providing wonderful Truths and Purpose to empower a solid relationship for nearly weds, newlyweds or a fresh start for couples who are already married.

Strong marriages don’t just happen. They are established in Truth and built with Purpose! Many couples start a life together enjoying elaborate engagement parties... bridal showers are meticulously planned... And a multitude of choices are made which result in a painstaking beautiful grand finale – The Wedding!

And while utmost attention is given to each detail of this event, what happens after the “I do’s” often may be likened to the bouquet thrown by the bride – up in the air and apt to land anywhere!

By establishing a foundation in God’s Purpose and understanding His plan and purpose for their lives can a couple build a lifetime of happiness and joy.

Embrace the opportunity of the “new” in your relationship and enter into the “United Blessedness” of your marriage!

As a Wedding Minister, non-denominational chaplain, having officiated more than 4,600 weddings in the span of nearly 25 years in ministry and a certified Prepare ~ Enrich couples coach, it has been my personal experience to share with many couples the joy of achieving their hearts desire as a married couple and family.

This new blog which I have been blessed with achieving with the professional tutelage of Tracy Petrucci, will serve as a vehicle which many have requested, to on a monthly series, post truths empowering couples to help identify and build on their couples strengths.

Thank you to the many couples who have encouraged me in this endeavor. I look forward to our continuing efforts with United Blessedness!

Respectfully,

Rev Powers, Ph.D.

Baby Baptism

Just enjoyed the second baby baptism for this family last week at Brengle Terrace Park in Vista, CA. What a dear family!

"Dear Rev Powers-We wanted to thank you for the beautiful private ceremony for our daughter. It was such a beautiful baptism and meant so much to us and our family and friends to once again engage your services for us, Gabriel 3 years ago and now Hailey.

Everyone enjoyed our time together and your beautiful meaningful words so much!"